Episode #29: 8 Bad Reasons To Get Into A Relationship

Everyone wants loooove. It’s only natural baby!

However, in our rush to find The One (or The One For Now) we can make a few mistakes that set us up for heartbreak down the road.

We’ve all been guilty of this at some point: rushing into a relationship or getting involved for all the WRONG reasons. For the most part here, that means we’re settling for less than we actually want, out of some sort of fear or low self-worth.

But please know I come to this episode with only your BEST intentions at heart!

We’re diving straight into it today with 8 BAD reasons to get into a relationship.

It’s ESSENTIAL listening for those who are dating but there are lessons about self-worth and standards in here for ALL of us!

In This Episode:

Find out 8 of the WORST reasons to get into a relationship
Get inspired to protect your peace and keep your eyes on what you really want in love
Much more!

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8 Bad Reasons To Get Into A Relationship | Episode #29 Transcript

Hello, beautiful, and welcome back to another episode of the Self Worth Project podcast. My name is Jenn. I am a coach and healer, and this podcast is here to help you—yes, you guessed it—raise your self-worth.

The thing is, there was never actually anything wrong with you. All the reasons you have for doubting yourself right now are just limiting beliefs. This podcast is all about getting to the root of those beliefs, learning how to heal, and reprogramming all that stuff. If you learned it, you can unlearn it.

Today, we are talking about eight bad reasons for getting into a relationship. Before we get into the reasons, I just want to remind you that I’m coming to you with your best intentions at heart. However, a lot of the information I give out about relationships probably flies in the face of what you have heard or been taught. But when you listen to what I’m saying, you’re going to understand how to see relationships in a whole new light.

A lot of the programming that women, in particular, get around relationships is actually so unhealthy. It is toxic and, in the end, often supports the patriarchy instead of centering us in our lives. We get centered into somebody else’s life, and that is never a winning proposition. This podcast today is not about de-centering men, but that is part of my overall ethos. So, let’s get into the reasons today.

Reason #1: You’re Bored

You know the saying, “wherever you go, there you are”? Well, that applies to relationships just as much as it does to anything else. It might seem logical to enter a relationship because you’re feeling bored or uninspired with your life. When you meet someone, it can be very tempting to start building a foundation with them. However, the problem is, like I said, wherever you go, there you are. If you are trying to fulfill your boredom with a person, you are just distracting yourself from the original problem. You may end up revolving your life around this person, but that boredom will still be there because you never fixed the core issue.

Instead, work on a new goal, start a new side hustle, take a new class, or learn a new language. Do the things you actually want to do but feel you have no time for. This will help you combat boredom in a healthy way, rather than looking to fill your time with another person.

Reason #2: You Want to Look Good on Social Media

In the age of social media, it can be tempting to do things “for the gram.” This can include starting a relationship just to have someone to show off online. Remember, your happiness and fulfillment are not part of social media. Posting photos for likes and comments provides a short-term dopamine hit but does not create long-term happiness. Social media is a facade; it’s easy to look great online while struggling with personal issues. Concentrate more on how your relationship feels than on how it looks.

Reason #3: You Feel Time is Running Out

Feeling like you’re behind in life or that you should have been married by now can lead to rushing into relationships. This mindset is a huge scarcity belief. Your time is not running out, and you are not behind in life. We are all on our own schedules. If you feel rushed, you are likely to settle for someone who isn’t right for you. Hold out for a relationship that truly benefits you and feels good. Don’t settle out of fear that time is running out.

Reason #4: You’ve Been Single for Too Long

The thought that you’ve been single for too long often stems from worrying about what others think. Being single is not a bad thing. It’s a beautiful state where you can grow, fall in love with yourself, and learn to be your own best friend. Don’t use being single as an excuse to push into something else, especially if it means settling for the wrong person.

Reason #5: This is the Best I Can Catch

This belief, often more common as we get older, is rooted in scarcity. Thinking the dating pool is smaller and you better settle for whoever is available is not healthy. Do not settle for someone who isn’t right just because you think they are the best you can get. Temporary relationships can be fun, but bringing someone into your life long-term when you know they’re not right for you is a mistake. Hold out for the real thing.

Reason #6: This Person Really Likes Me

Prioritizing someone else’s feelings above your own because they really like or love you is not a valid reason to start a relationship. If you have to convince yourself to be with them, they are not the right person for you. Don’t stay with someone out of guilt or obligation. Both you and the other person deserve to be in a relationship where you are both genuinely happy and into each other.

Reason #7: Revenge

Dating someone to get back at an ex is not a good foundation for a relationship. This involves another person in your past drama, which is unfair. Revenge dating shows you are not emotionally past your previous relationship. Don’t bring a new person into this dynamic. It’s not fair to them or to you.

Reason #8: You’re Lonely

Yes, loneliness sucks, but solitude is golden. Society often demonizes being single, especially for women, but being single is a gift. It allows you to do so much growth and learn how to be your own best friend. Loneliness often stems from fear of judgment rather than true solitude. Being in a relationship does not cure loneliness. Learn how to cure your own loneliness yourself because that is the only way to truly overcome it.

At the end of the day, you can date whoever you like and arrange your romantic relationships in any way that suits you. All I’m asking is for you to center yourself first, prioritize your needs, and ensure you are becoming happier and healthier. Your peace and happiness are worth protecting.

Thank you so much for being here, my beautiful friend. If you know someone who could use this message, please share this podcast with them. Have a beautiful week, and I’ll see you in the next episode.