Episode #35: You Can't Delete A Thought

Have you ever told yourself “Stop thinking that!”

You’re smart. You can NOTICE those sh*tty low-vibe thoughts and beliefs running through your mind.

Only thing is: why do they keep coming back?

Today I’m sharing the reason why you CAN’T just delete a thought–and what you NEED to do instead!

Stop letting the low-vibe thoughts and Inner Mean Girl win with these quick tips!

In This Episode:

Find out why you can’t DELETE a thought
Get my process on what to do instead
Plus a BONUS tip to help reprogram your mind for success!
Much more!

Listen Here:

You Can’t Delete A Thought | Episode #35 Transcript

Hi guys, welcome back to another episode of the podcast. Yes, it’s your girl, Jenn.
I know I sound a little bit off today. I have been sick, which is why I did not make an episode for you last week.
But I’m feeling a bit better now, even though my voice is a bit my goal.
So bear with me as we sound a little bit off today.
This podcast is your weekly dose of modern mindset and self-development info
and designed to help you become your best brightest, most healed self.
Today we’re talking about something that I wrote about recently on the blog.
It’s one tiny little concept that was inside of a bigger post, but when I was writing it, I was like,
“Okay, I need to come back and talk a little bit more about this.”
Because I think this is the part that a lot of us are missing.
I know in my experience with my personal growth journey in all the healing work that I’ve done,
I know that this is something that I forget sometimes.
Even though I know better than this, I still forget sometimes, which is exactly why we need this episode today.
You and me both need this episode today.
Today I’m here to talk about a part of the reprogramming your mind phase that is crucial to your success.
Maybe you’re new to this world, maybe you’re new to self-development and to mind that work.
But something that I talk about a lot is replacing old beliefs and going in and finding old limiting beliefs
and changing them out, swapping them out.
Noticing what our toxic patterns are and especially our patterns and beliefs related to our trauma,
because most of the really strong negative dynamics in our life are linked onto an emotionally traumatic experience.
That’s why it’s so difficult to get beyond them because we have created a limiting belief
and a protection mechanism around them.
Okay, so it’s all working together.
The little limiting beliefs that are blocking you from your manifestations are usually linked to some emotional trauma
which creates a behavioral pattern that all in turn work together to block you from getting what you want.
So in my work, when it comes to healing, it’s just very important to understand the stuff
so that you can learn how to release it and not be controlled by something that essentially happened to you years and years ago.
So just releasing yourself from that emotional trauma, that emotional pain, that emotional heaviness,
that is such a worthy thing to do unto itself.
The bonus point you get on top of that is that by doing that work and reprogramming those things,
reprogramming them to be more helpful, you can many times create better outcomes for yourself in your life.
Which translates into things like more money, better relationships, more confidence, etc, etc.
So all of these things really work in tandem, which is why I found myself talking so much about personal development work
when I was really talking about manifestation because in my world, you cannot have one without the other.
You can make a wish, sometimes things come true, but if you haven’t done the inner work,
then you are probably going to be dragging your heels to the mud
because you are working against your limiting beliefs and your negative programming.
Okay? So that’s a little bird’s eye overview of the situation,
but the very specific thing that I wanted to talk about today is the importance of replacing beliefs
and the problem that we usually run into along the way.
So when you’re starting to do this stuff, it’s pretty easy to be a bit intellectual about it.
Like you can look at yourself and think, “Okay, obviously I have low self worth
because I keep accepting these romantic relationships,” for example, where this partner, this person,
these people did not recognize my worth. They’re not reflecting it back to me.
They clearly did not respect me the way I would like to be respected, right?
So it’s easy for us to kind of see that we might have had these patterns happening in our
love life and our money life wherever, right? Like you are probably complaining about some of your
patterns right now. That is why this is the easy stuff to target.
So what usually happens is that you can see that like, “Okay, I definitely have not been showing my
worth. I have not been asking for my worth in relationships. I’ve been settling in terms of my
romantic relationships for people that don’t respect me.” So what do I need to do? I need to stop
thinking low-vibe thoughts. I need to stop thinking negative things about myself.
So you start to tell yourself, “Okay, stop telling yourself you’re ugly.
Stop telling yourself you’re not worthy. Stop telling yourself all these things.”
But that’s not how it works. Unfortunately, that’s not how it works. Awareness is always the key
to solving the puzzle. Like if you have no awareness of this idea inside of you, then it’s going to
be really hard to get over it. So awareness is huge. Being aware that you have these issues inside
of you, these beliefs inside of you, massive, however, it is not good enough for you to just tell
yourself to stop thinking a thought or to stop having a belief. Because it’s like the pink elephant
rule. If I tell you right now, don’t think about a pink elephant. What are you thinking about right
now? I know you’re thinking about a pink elephant. That is because our brain thinks in pictures,
thinks in stories, that thinks in feelings more than it thinks in abstract concepts. So I can tell you
not to do something, but you literally cannot think about how not to do something without thinking
about that thing. That is the problem. When it comes to me telling you or you telling yourself,
“I don’t want to think low-vibe thoughts anymore. I’m going to not tell myself I’m stupid or ugly,”
or whatever. You start thinking, “Don’t tell yourself that.” But your brain doesn’t have something
else to latch onto. It doesn’t have something new to tell. It doesn’t have a new story. It doesn’t
have a new idea. It doesn’t have a new belief. So even though you’re busy telling yourself not to
think those things, you’re still thinking them. You just can’t block that out, right? It’s like
trying to empty out your cup of water, but you’re in the ocean. In the ocean trying to dump water
out of your cup, like more water is coming in. You need to clear out space to put more water in the
cup and you have to do that by getting outside of the ocean. So how you do this in the world of
thought work is that you need to have something new to believe in. You need to have a new thought,
you need to have a new self-concept, you need to go somewhere else. You cannot just delete a thought.
You have to swap it out with something else. So here’s another spot where it gets a little tricky,
right? So if you’re working on your self-growth and you’re struggling with low self-image, then maybe
you have a belief of, I’m just not good enough. And you know you want to change that, right? So you’ve
been telling yourself, don’t think that, don’t think that, don’t think that meanwhile you’re still
thinking that. So the temptation in this situation might be to go to something big, like, oh, I’m
amazing. I’m an amazing person. I am so great. Everyone loves me, blah, blah, blah, whatever, whatever
the thought might be. But if you were starting at zero and now you are trying to replace that thought
with something that’s like at 100 level, you might find that very difficult to jump that big
distance, right? Because you are so used to living underground, living underwater, living with that low
vibe thought that low vibe belief. You don’t even know what it’s like to just not have the negative
impact on you. Never mind you have no idea what it’s like to actually think positively about yourself,
right? The negative thought has been pulling you down for so long that that has become your normal.
So the next thing I want you to think about when you’re in the situation is instead of jumping to
something at the extreme end of positivity, let’s jump to something neutral. So you are telling
yourself, I’m not worthy. Why not tell yourself, I am a human that has worth. Okay, I’m a human and
humans have worth. That’s simple. I mean, that’s maybe a little bit positive, but like, it’s still
an easier jump, I would think, then going to being like, oh my gosh, I have so muchworthiness. I can’t
believe people don’t see my amazingness, blah, blah, blah, to this stuff that sounds narcissistic,
except if you’re not a narcissist, it’s not narcissistic, right? Sometimes you have to create that
in between spot read a latch on to. Okay? So that’s really what I wanted to talk about today.
The fact that you cannot delete a thought, you cannot delete a thought, baby, stop trying to delete a
thought, deleting a thought does not work. What you need to do is to figure out what you want to believe
or what you want your new thought to be. The next time you are doing this work and you know it is a
pattern, you know something going on in your life, you know you want to change it, you know what that
thought is, that core negative thought in your mind, try placing it with something else. And my next
suggestion on top of that is to go to something neutral. If you cannot go to the completely amazing
and worthy over the top thought, go to a neutral place. This journey to loving yourself and being
that person that I know you really are, the person I know you are born to be, the person you are
born to be, this stuff does not happen overnight normally. We have just been negatively programmed
for so long and we have bought into these lies that we’ve learned from our family, from society,
from whoever. We’ve learned that for such a long time that it is just going to take some
dedication on your part. It’s going to take you coming back to this over and over again to remind
you of what the new path is. But you are more than capable of creating this new connection,
of creating this new belief and ultimately creating a new outcome. All you need to do is to put the
loving attention and care into the way you think in order to create that. Okay. You are powerful,
you are capable and you are so lovable, my friend and I’m so glad you listened to this episode today.
I hope you learned something amazing and I’ll catch you back here in the next one.